Surrendering All & Surrendering to Love
Surrendering All
Depth psychologist and contemplative author David Benner considers Jesus a model of surrendering to God’s will:
Christ is the epitome of life lived with willingness. “Your will be done,” he prayed in what we call the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:10). And more than just in prayer, he lived this posture of preferring God’s will to his own. Christian spirituality is following Christ in this self-abandonment. It is following his example of willing surrender….
The abundant life promised us in Christ comes not from grasping but from releasing. It comes not from striving but from relinquishing. It comes not so much from taking as from giving. Surrender is the foundational dynamic of Christian freedom—surrender of my efforts to live my life outside of the grasp of God’s love and surrender to God’s will and gracious Spirit.
Surrendering to Love
Author bell hooks (1952–2021) considers the biblical call to surrender, so we might be healed by love:
It is difficult to wait. No doubt that is why biblical scriptures urge the seeker to learn how to wait, for waiting renews our strength. When we surrender to the “wait” we allow changes to emerge within us without anticipation or struggle. When we do this we are stepping out, on faith. In Buddhist terms this practice of surrender, of letting go, makes it possible for us to enter a space of compassion where we can feel sympathy for ourselves and others….
Redemptive love lures us and calls us toward the possibility of healing. We cannot account for the presence of the heart’s knowledge. Like all great mysteries, we are all mysteriously called to love no matter the conditions of our lives, the degree of our depravity or despair. The persistence of this call gives us reason to hope…. Renewing our faith in love’s promise, hope is our covenant.…
To return to love, to know perfect love, we surrender the will to power. It is this revelation that makes the scriptures on perfect love so prophetic and revolutionary for our times. We cannot know love if we remain unable to surrender our attachment to power, if any feeling of vulnerability strikes terror in our hearts. Lovelessness torments.
As our cultural awareness of the ways we are seduced away from love, away from the knowledge that love heals gains recognition, our anguish intensifies. But so does our yearning. The space of our lack is also the space of possibility. As we yearn, we make ourselves ready to receive the love that is coming to us, as gift, as promise, as earthly paradise.[1]
Brian McLaren describes how healing occurs when we release our need for supremacy, certainty, and control.
The more we hear the sound of the genuine, the more the deepest habits of our hearts are renovated and remodeled in the way of love, and the more supremacy loses its appeal.… We surrender the supremacy of our ego, our self-centered demands for power, pleasure, prestige, prominence. We surrender the supremacy of our group, whether that group is defined by religion, race, politics, nationality, economic class, social status, or whatever. We even surrender the supremacy of our species, realizing that humans can’t survive and thrive unless the plankton and trees, the soil and bees, and the climate and seas thrive too. We gladly shed supremacy to make room for solidarity. That gain, we discover, is worth every cost….
As the desire to dominate slips through our fingers, something in us dies…. But in the letting go, something new comes, is born, begins, grows: a sense of connection, of not-aloneness, of communion and union and belonging. We descend from the ladders and pedestals we have erected, and we rejoin the community of creation, the network of shalom…. The loss is no small thing, ah, but the gain is incomparably greater. [2]
Depth psychologist and contemplative author David Benner considers Jesus a model of surrendering to God’s will:
Christ is the epitome of life lived with willingness. “Your will be done,” he prayed in what we call the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:10). And more than just in prayer, he lived this posture of preferring God’s will to his own. Christian spirituality is following Christ in this self-abandonment. It is following his example of willing surrender….
The abundant life promised us in Christ comes not from grasping but from releasing. It comes not from striving but from relinquishing. It comes not so much from taking as from giving. Surrender is the foundational dynamic of Christian freedom—surrender of my efforts to live my life outside of the grasp of God’s love and surrender to God’s will and gracious Spirit.
Surrendering to Love
Author bell hooks (1952–2021) considers the biblical call to surrender, so we might be healed by love:
It is difficult to wait. No doubt that is why biblical scriptures urge the seeker to learn how to wait, for waiting renews our strength. When we surrender to the “wait” we allow changes to emerge within us without anticipation or struggle. When we do this we are stepping out, on faith. In Buddhist terms this practice of surrender, of letting go, makes it possible for us to enter a space of compassion where we can feel sympathy for ourselves and others….
Redemptive love lures us and calls us toward the possibility of healing. We cannot account for the presence of the heart’s knowledge. Like all great mysteries, we are all mysteriously called to love no matter the conditions of our lives, the degree of our depravity or despair. The persistence of this call gives us reason to hope…. Renewing our faith in love’s promise, hope is our covenant.…
To return to love, to know perfect love, we surrender the will to power. It is this revelation that makes the scriptures on perfect love so prophetic and revolutionary for our times. We cannot know love if we remain unable to surrender our attachment to power, if any feeling of vulnerability strikes terror in our hearts. Lovelessness torments.
As our cultural awareness of the ways we are seduced away from love, away from the knowledge that love heals gains recognition, our anguish intensifies. But so does our yearning. The space of our lack is also the space of possibility. As we yearn, we make ourselves ready to receive the love that is coming to us, as gift, as promise, as earthly paradise.[1]
Brian McLaren describes how healing occurs when we release our need for supremacy, certainty, and control.
The more we hear the sound of the genuine, the more the deepest habits of our hearts are renovated and remodeled in the way of love, and the more supremacy loses its appeal.… We surrender the supremacy of our ego, our self-centered demands for power, pleasure, prestige, prominence. We surrender the supremacy of our group, whether that group is defined by religion, race, politics, nationality, economic class, social status, or whatever. We even surrender the supremacy of our species, realizing that humans can’t survive and thrive unless the plankton and trees, the soil and bees, and the climate and seas thrive too. We gladly shed supremacy to make room for solidarity. That gain, we discover, is worth every cost….
As the desire to dominate slips through our fingers, something in us dies…. But in the letting go, something new comes, is born, begins, grows: a sense of connection, of not-aloneness, of communion and union and belonging. We descend from the ladders and pedestals we have erected, and we rejoin the community of creation, the network of shalom…. The loss is no small thing, ah, but the gain is incomparably greater. [2]
Kids Corner:
It is important to support younger children in developing deep and consistent prayer lives. Help them know that God lovingly calls us into a personal relationship
and always hears our prayers.
God want to be part of EVERY aspect of our lives not just when things are difficult.
Here are some fun ways to encourage you to be in relationship with God everyday and to bring all things to God in prayer.
Prayer Dice
A prayer dice can be used as a quick and way to have prayer in the morning. Each side of the dice will have a word on it, for example, family, grandparent, animals, teachers, siblings, the environment, people who are sick, people who are lonely, pets or animals, your choice. Whatever the dice rolls on is what we pray for. At prayer time, maybe roll the dice 2 -3 times.
Finish with a response e.g., “Merciful God hear our prayers”
Meditation Prayer
Write down your own prayer or think about something you want to pray about. Go outside or find somewhere quiet at home and find a space on their own. Set a timer for 3-5 minutes. Get everyone to lay down on their backs and do a mediation type of prayer. Encourage stillness and a return to your prayer if your attention wanders, but leave space to just be in God's presence.
Prayer Ball
Buy a small ball and write different things that you could use to spark prayer. Throw the ball to each other and stop every 5 passes. Wherever your thumb is pointing use that to create a prayer. Here are some examples of things you could use:
- Pop up and say one thing to praise God for something
- Ask God to help someone who is sick
- Shout out loud somewhere you can be like Jesus today
- With a friend
- Pray for a child who lives where there is war
- ask God to help you cheer up someone who is feeling sad
- Tell God about a fun day you have had and thank God for that day
- what makes you sad? Why? Ask God for comfort
- some children have no clean water , ask God to help them
- pray for someone you have seen on TV
- thank God for someone who is older than you
- shout out the name of someone who helps you
- put you left foot into the circle - then pray for those kids who don't have any shoes and warm clothes
- pretend to swim around the room and prayer for those people who live on island effected by climate change
- if you could email God .... what would you say? Tell God now.
- with a friend pray for all the babies and mothers in the world
- what is stopping you from helping others? Ask God to help you be brave!
- What could you donate that someone else could use? Ask God to help you be more generous.
- what is your favourite thing about God? Tell your friend
- zoom around the room and tell God 3 people you are thankful for
- stand like a tree and pray that we can be more careful with our environment
- think of something you have done wrong. Silently tell God you are sorry.
- make the sound of a lion or wild animal - thank God for the amazing creatures we share this planet with
- find 3 people and tell each one something you are thankful for
Prayer Marbles
Choose between 3-5 marbles
Take turns to put the marble into the box saying one thing that you are thankful for.
Prayer Book
Writing down things you are thankful for to God for in the front of the journal. This can be family, friends, sky, grass, etc. anything that they love and appreciate about the world
In the back things that you want to asking God about: for example, 'Loving God please stop hunger and war.' or 'God of miracles please heal my cat who is feeling sick.’
M&M Prayer
5 colours
blue - family
green - friends
yellow - church
red - people of other religions
orange - leaders and teachers
The children get 3-5 m&m’s or counters which they have to pray for and take turn to share their prayers.
Prayerful playdoh
Think of something in your life you are struggling with or having problems with. Use the dough to create an image that represents this. Are you make the image listen to what God might be saying to you about the situation. Have a discussion with God and allow it to move back and forth, from talking to listening.
Once everyone has finished creating end the prayer with something like, God give us the courage to deal with things are Jesus would. Amen
Lego Prayer
Choose a piece of lego
Step 1: Hold your brick, pray for yourself. Thank God for the things you have been given. Ask God to bless you and to help you to bless others.
Step 2: Count the bumps on your brick.
For each bump on your brick, pray for a different person - friends or family members. Ask God to bless them this week.
Step 3: Find someone in the group who has a different colour brick to you. Thank God for something about this person. This could be a trait, attribute or skill. Thank God for making each person special and unique. Pray that we will learn how to celebrate, understand and include people who are different to us.
Step 4: Find someone with the same number of bumps on their brick as you.
Thank God for families and friends and all who care for us. Ask God to help us to be make an effort to be friends with those who are lonely.
Step 5: Swap your brick with someone.
Thank God for the person you swapped with and ask God to bless them this week.
Step 6: Put all the bricks together and build a structure or tower with them.
Thank God for the church and the communities we live in. Pray that God will help us to include others and to help people know that they are loved and valued.
5 Finger Prayer
To take home.
Thumb – for the ones we love (our thumb is closest to us.
1st finger – for the teachers (this is our pointing finger)
2nd finger – for out leaders (this is the tallest finger)
3rd finger – for the sick and vulnerable (this is our weakest finger)
4th finger – for me
THE PALM - Mother Earth who's future we hold in the palm of our hands.
and always hears our prayers.
God want to be part of EVERY aspect of our lives not just when things are difficult.
Here are some fun ways to encourage you to be in relationship with God everyday and to bring all things to God in prayer.
Prayer Dice
A prayer dice can be used as a quick and way to have prayer in the morning. Each side of the dice will have a word on it, for example, family, grandparent, animals, teachers, siblings, the environment, people who are sick, people who are lonely, pets or animals, your choice. Whatever the dice rolls on is what we pray for. At prayer time, maybe roll the dice 2 -3 times.
Finish with a response e.g., “Merciful God hear our prayers”
Meditation Prayer
Write down your own prayer or think about something you want to pray about. Go outside or find somewhere quiet at home and find a space on their own. Set a timer for 3-5 minutes. Get everyone to lay down on their backs and do a mediation type of prayer. Encourage stillness and a return to your prayer if your attention wanders, but leave space to just be in God's presence.
Prayer Ball
Buy a small ball and write different things that you could use to spark prayer. Throw the ball to each other and stop every 5 passes. Wherever your thumb is pointing use that to create a prayer. Here are some examples of things you could use:
- Pop up and say one thing to praise God for something
- Ask God to help someone who is sick
- Shout out loud somewhere you can be like Jesus today
- With a friend
- Pray for a child who lives where there is war
- ask God to help you cheer up someone who is feeling sad
- Tell God about a fun day you have had and thank God for that day
- what makes you sad? Why? Ask God for comfort
- some children have no clean water , ask God to help them
- pray for someone you have seen on TV
- thank God for someone who is older than you
- shout out the name of someone who helps you
- put you left foot into the circle - then pray for those kids who don't have any shoes and warm clothes
- pretend to swim around the room and prayer for those people who live on island effected by climate change
- if you could email God .... what would you say? Tell God now.
- with a friend pray for all the babies and mothers in the world
- what is stopping you from helping others? Ask God to help you be brave!
- What could you donate that someone else could use? Ask God to help you be more generous.
- what is your favourite thing about God? Tell your friend
- zoom around the room and tell God 3 people you are thankful for
- stand like a tree and pray that we can be more careful with our environment
- think of something you have done wrong. Silently tell God you are sorry.
- make the sound of a lion or wild animal - thank God for the amazing creatures we share this planet with
- find 3 people and tell each one something you are thankful for
Prayer Marbles
Choose between 3-5 marbles
Take turns to put the marble into the box saying one thing that you are thankful for.
Prayer Book
Writing down things you are thankful for to God for in the front of the journal. This can be family, friends, sky, grass, etc. anything that they love and appreciate about the world
In the back things that you want to asking God about: for example, 'Loving God please stop hunger and war.' or 'God of miracles please heal my cat who is feeling sick.’
M&M Prayer
5 colours
blue - family
green - friends
yellow - church
red - people of other religions
orange - leaders and teachers
The children get 3-5 m&m’s or counters which they have to pray for and take turn to share their prayers.
Prayerful playdoh
Think of something in your life you are struggling with or having problems with. Use the dough to create an image that represents this. Are you make the image listen to what God might be saying to you about the situation. Have a discussion with God and allow it to move back and forth, from talking to listening.
Once everyone has finished creating end the prayer with something like, God give us the courage to deal with things are Jesus would. Amen
Lego Prayer
Choose a piece of lego
Step 1: Hold your brick, pray for yourself. Thank God for the things you have been given. Ask God to bless you and to help you to bless others.
Step 2: Count the bumps on your brick.
For each bump on your brick, pray for a different person - friends or family members. Ask God to bless them this week.
Step 3: Find someone in the group who has a different colour brick to you. Thank God for something about this person. This could be a trait, attribute or skill. Thank God for making each person special and unique. Pray that we will learn how to celebrate, understand and include people who are different to us.
Step 4: Find someone with the same number of bumps on their brick as you.
Thank God for families and friends and all who care for us. Ask God to help us to be make an effort to be friends with those who are lonely.
Step 5: Swap your brick with someone.
Thank God for the person you swapped with and ask God to bless them this week.
Step 6: Put all the bricks together and build a structure or tower with them.
Thank God for the church and the communities we live in. Pray that God will help us to include others and to help people know that they are loved and valued.
5 Finger Prayer
To take home.
Thumb – for the ones we love (our thumb is closest to us.
1st finger – for the teachers (this is our pointing finger)
2nd finger – for out leaders (this is the tallest finger)
3rd finger – for the sick and vulnerable (this is our weakest finger)
4th finger – for me
THE PALM - Mother Earth who's future we hold in the palm of our hands.